Share Why I want to adopt again!
This blog was provided by our guest blogger Karla Marie Williams (Family by Design)


I simply adore kids. When a child joins a family whether by birth or adoption, I get completely mushy! There is just something special that every child brings to a family. Every time I find out a friend is expecting I go nuts. I start weeks, sometimes months in advance collecting baskets of baby stuff for the shower. I always pride myself on finding the most useful and neat gifts I can find for the mom-to-be.


A few years ago, I went to a shower for one of my friends who was expecting. I love seeing all the booties, onesies and toys when it is time to open the gifts. “OPEN OPEN OPEN” , I thought as she got closer to opening my gift. I bought her all the things I knew most people would never think of, but all mom’s need at some point. Like the mosquito netting for the stroller, the fashionable breast feeding coverlet, shopping cart covers and purse/bag holders for the stroller. JACK POT! She loved the gifts. After opening the gifts all the moms gathered around and talked about their labor stories, pregnancy woes and kid’s birth weights. Of course, because all my kids were adopted, I did not have much to contribute to this conversation. No labor stories, not sure how much they weighed, no hemmoroids or heart burn for me. Soon the conversation turned to how many children you want and if everyone was DONE. This was my chance to talk. ” I want more”, I shouted in confidence. “I’m afraid you will never be done”, said one friend. “You are gong to adopt an army”, said another. WAIT……..I only have 3 kids. Why is it wrong for me to want more?


When we started dating, my husband and I had dreams and goals for a BIG future together. One of the things that attracted us to each other was that we both wanted 6 children. Coming from a young couple just starting out, we were giddy, in love and hopeful. 8 years and 4 miscarriages later (7 losses to date) our goals of a big family were shot down a bit. At that point we just wanted a child.


We were in an environment where the people around us as well as our selves were very career driven. One or two children was just enough to experience parenthood but not too much to interrupt my plans…this was the common thought pattern. We adopted 3 children all at once. Hey, we had waited so long…why not just bring it on? We were in parental heaven. Of course it was not always easy, but rewarding.


So when I began to talk about adopting more children, I was met with questions of finances, time, my goals and dreams at risk and more. We don’t view parenthood as something that gets in the way. From the beginning of our marriage we wanted a house full of giggles and wiggles and after all the loss we have endured we finally got our drive back to pursue that very dream.


Our vision for our family is simply that. OUR VISION! We are willing to take on the task of nurturing, loving, raising and home schooling more children. No one else is responsible for them. This is our family. This is our dream. Yes, we want to adopt again. We are in the midst of planning right now. It is not as if I am coming up pregnant every year with no way to raise or support my children. Adoption is a calculated, planned out and intentional parenting choice. Rest assured, we have thought through the process and YES, we want to adopt again!